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What Do Saudi Women Want?

It's not as simple as driving, voting, and property.

BY EMAN AL NAFJAN | NOVEMBER 28, 2011

What do Saudi women want? I wish I could give you an easy answer. But Saudi Arabia is a diverse land -- spread out across a vast territory almost a fourth the size of the United States and divided by religious sects and among some 45 tribes. Divining the Saudi people's demands, never mind those of Saudi women, is no simple task.

By law, every Saudi woman has a male guardian. At birth, the guardianship is given to her father and then upon marriage to her husband. If a woman is a widow, her guardianship is given to her son -- meaning that she would need her own son's permission for the majority of her interactions with the government, including the right to travel abroad. Legal recourse is difficult to obtain, especially because abuse is only recognized when it's physical abuse. Even then, the Saudi justice system is patriarchal, bordering on the misogynistic. For example, to this day the Justice Ministry has not issued a law banning child marriage, leaving the decision at the discretion of the girl's father.

You would think that women living under these conditions would long for liberty, independence, and civil rights. Many do -- as this year's driving campaign makes clear. However, it's just not that simple. Millions of others are still not sure they are ready for change. Some explain their indecision as a fear that they might have to assume responsibilities they are incapable of undertaking. One fellow Saudi tells me that she sees what women have to put up with abroad: "I see how American women have to run around the city running errands, and I don't want to open that door. As long as women driving is banned, no one will have these expectations for me," she says.

In fact, Saudi Arabia may be even more conservative than most outsiders think. There are some who are not only passively happy with the status quo but also loud in their resistance to any form of change. In 2009, a Jeddah woman named Rawdah Al-Yousif, in collaboration with members of the royal family, organized a campaign to strengthen the guardianship system. It was called "My Guardian Knows What's Best for Me." They urged the king not to give in to local activists and international human rights organizations regarding the guardianship system. Another campaign gathered thousands of signatures from both men and women calling for the extension of gender segregation laws to hospitals -- the same segregation laws that have led to Saudi women only making up 15 percent of the national workforce and an unemployment rate for women so high that the government won't release the numbers. The only public places where these laws are not enforced are malls and hospitals. Yet there are Saudis who would like to see segregation even there.

None of this is a surprise, considering what is being taught in the public school system. In religion classes, students learn that the Saudi interpretation of Islam supersedes any worldly concepts of human rights. Women have the most to lose, yet these ideas are so ingrained that I defy you to find a report of a Saudi mother complaining about what her children are being taught.

Women in most countries may take their aspirations for freedom for granted, but for many of us, it is brand new. An exasperated expatriate in Riyadh once expressed to me how frustrated she was with the requirement to wear an abaya everywhere. She wondered: How do you all put up with having to cover your faces for your whole adult lives? What she didn't realize was that many Saudi women look at her and wonder: How can she walk around without an abaya? How is it that she doesn't feel exposed and naked?

Yet I am happy to say that I am one of many women hungry for self-determination -- women who have realized that though liberty and rights come with responsibility, it also gives them and their daughters the autonomy to pursue their happiness.

And yes, there are hundreds, if not thousands, of Saudi women who are fighting for their rights -- and the well-covered driving campaign is just one of many battles, from fighting for the right to manage their own businesses to being allowed to freely leave and enter the country without their guardian's permission. Even something as simple as recognizing women lawyers in our judicial system could be transformational. And that, of course, is why it is so hard.

FAYEZ NURELDINE/AFP/Getty Images

 

Eman Al Nafjan, a 2011 FP Global Thinker, blogs at Saudiwoman's Weblog.

PLAINIOUS

11:58 AM ET

December 1, 2011

I think Saudi Women want the

I think Saudi Women want the best of both worlds! And without any doubt, that's what every sane person wants...

 

AUTO PEçAS

9:44 PM ET

December 1, 2011

Yea !

There is a reason we have brains. We are supposed to evolve, get educated and prosper. These pagan customs want to maintain the status quo of from a thousand year ago. I am glad the French have passed the burqa law...thanks !Seguro Imoveis Massagistas Acompanhantes Ar Condicionado Carro

 

YASIR QUANTUMSEOLABS

3:57 PM ET

December 3, 2011

Get a life and leave them alone

Why should anyone be concerned how women live in Saudi Arabia? I don't see the saudis starting campaigns to get french women to dress modestly at their beaches. You just want to pervert their societies just like your's, you have no other motive. You kill thousands of afghani women without blinking but are shocked they cant go to school. No one is buying your fake compassion. Also if you guys had the right idea of what a woman should be you wouldnt live in a society where women are seen as casual sex objects that couldnt get a man to commit if her life depended on it. You wouldnt have american men running overseas and build links with foreigners to find wives at such a pace laws are passed to slow it down (VAWA, IMBRA). If no one wants your women your not qualified to tell anyone about anything concerning women

 

SHANETWO

5:01 PM ET

December 3, 2011

Um, what?

The reason people care about how women in Saudi Arabia live versus French women is because women have much more freedom. Actually, I put that the wrong way; the difference is that French women actually HAVE any freedom. At all.

A story came out just the other day about how Saudi Clerics don't want women to drive because "it will lead to no more virgins." [link to the article] That kind of dogma is pathetic and unacceptable. -student loans without cosigner

 

ALEX TROF

9:48 PM ET

December 9, 2011

There are clearly campaign about India as well

You're just too stupid to search for it. Also, your mother is a worthless whore.

 

VANBUREN99

6:29 PM ET

December 3, 2011

a different perspective

Most of us in the West project and think that Saudi Women want independence, but that is very presumptuous of us. Remember during the suffrage movement for women to get the right to vote, there were many women who didn't believe women should vote.

Same thing during the American Revolution. Many loyalists wanted to stay with Britain. Even during the Civil Rights movement, when people were coming together to oppose racial segregation, there were many people who still violently opposed integration.

In any major social issue where there is a subjugated class, the truth of human psychology is that there is a certain comfort in familiarity no matter how awful it may seem to the outside.

From the West's pov it is unimaginable that women would accept these conditions, but clearly there is more to understanding their culture than we realize. clickbank scam

 

ALEX TROF

9:50 PM ET

December 9, 2011

What?

I hate cultural relativism.

 

MILLICENT FOX

8:26 AM ET

December 4, 2011

Sad

This women are sad, no freedom... and what about dogs in islam ?
forbiden... i wish people need to think by themself.
they have maybe no cat with litiere, anyway we are in the 21 century now.
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December 4, 2011

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CRISTHOMAS1063

2:31 AM ET

December 6, 2011

Saudi Women Need Freedom

I really find it unfair for Saudi women to have such justice system. Men and women were created equal so it's just right for them to make their own decisions. I'm going visit Saudi and hit their government with my tennis serve to let them know that it's time to revise their justice system.

 

LOVE1

8:20 AM ET

December 6, 2011

Women need to be given the right to change their circumstances

First of all, I don't agree with Rawdah Al-Yousif, being in collaboration with members of the royal family to strengthen the guardianship system. "My Guardian Knows What's Best for Me."

The reality is some 'guardians' do not know best !!!! And to 'assume' they do because they are 'male' is plain crazy and stupid. However some guadians are fantastic and would love women to be more independent. I am sure it would make their own lives much easier!

The issue of Saudi women is bigger than religion. It is to do with culture. If it was to do with 'religion' they would all be free because Islam doesn't promote what goes on in Saudi social systems, the unfair restrictions, the illogical idea to ban driving, the wearing the same dress code. Islam is much better and much richer and diverse than how the Saudi's chose to see it in their womenfolk.

That aside because I could go on forever!!! Women in Saudi have a 'VOICE' and are very 'INTELLIGIENT' and know what they want!!! Saudi women want to be respected and their thoughts and opinions heard so that they are the ones driving change. They don't want men to take control, the religious police or even the west to tell them what to do!!! I feel they are not being respected or heard.

They can and one day will make the smart changes that they envision for themselves.

May Allah help them and keep them strong.

 

NAZR

6:16 AM ET

December 8, 2011

What Do Saudi Women Want?

They want things based on exactly what Islam says. Look from the history, our function models. Xtreme NO.

 

DONKISSOTES

9:54 AM ET

December 15, 2011

necessary laws governing women's rights

has become destiny for women saudi arabia. is not easy to change something that has lasted from generation to generation since ancient prophecy. with saudi arabia male dominance over women, then this will continue if there is no change in the system of democratic government to raise the rights of women saudi arabia donkissotes.com

 

WILLRIVERA

3:08 PM ET

December 21, 2011

Divining the Saudi people's demands

A Saudi woman are only able to seek a judicial divorce using the consent of her husband whereas a Saudi man can divorce his wife with no justifiable reason. Khulood al-Fayez depicts the look from the woman in Saudi culture as you associated with visual impact and youth, however the picture of her like a individual who endures childhood, adolescence and senior years doesn't exist. Many believe this explains why a lady will probably wish to hide her age.

 

RANAMALLAH

5:40 AM ET

December 23, 2011

I AM A SAUDI WOMAN

i believe that not every thing you see or hear in the media is 100% true .... with all do respect to all of you .. most of you had never been to Saudi Arabia and yet judging the way we live our lives ... the idea behind the "male guardian" is that a women needs a strong person who can preserve her rights in a cruel world , take care of her and make her comfortable , when she is young it is her father's responsibility to do that , when she is married it is her husband's responsibility to look after her ,and when she has no one it is her son who takes care of her .. that doesn't mean that he forces her to do what he wants , NO... it will only teach the male how to be responsible and caring and at the same time keep the women's right .. after all she is the one who raised her guardian ....

about one of the previous comments that says and i quote "statistically speaking there are more women contemplating suicide in Saudi Arabia than there are women in all of the U.S. " hmmmmmm i wonder where did you get this from !!!!! ..... buddy YOU need to STOP making things up committing suicide is prohibited in Islam ... i am sorry to tell you that you are wrong

you do not have enough information about our religion , culture , traditions so you are not qualified to make judgment based on a weak knowledge ...
you got your own problems fix it for god sake ... we are happy with our situation we haven't complained at all .
i totally agree with SMOKENMIRROR we are not buying your fake compassion . the only motive you got is to pervert our society .
we are educated strong independent women , we are treated well by the males they drive us anywhere we want , each family got its own driver if not two drivers they drive us anywhere we want , why you are acting like women driving here is a big deal ?!
i know what is going on in my country i am a female and i know that better that you do so stop overreacting about women rights in Saudi Arabia .

 

YARINSIZ

3:59 PM ET

December 24, 2011

Who are you talking to

Who are you talking to French, Americans? We are not all the same. And even other Arabs hate what Saudis are doing. The entire world is against you on this one, not just America. seslichat The fact that there are some problems everywhere, doesn't mean Saudi problems aren't much worse than anybody else's. BTW, statistically speaking there are more women contemplating suicide in Saudi Arabia than there are women in all of the U.S. unable to find a husband. I doubt you understand the concept of free choice and how valuable it is

 

FRIVCITY

4:29 AM ET

December 28, 2011

Why no concern?

Why no concern? I dont see the saudis starting campaigns to get french women to dress modestly at their beaches. You just want to pervert their societies, you have no other motive. You kill thousands of afghani women without blinking but are shocked they cant go to school. Miniclip, Starfall, Funbrain, Miniclip, Armor Games. There are some who are not only passively happy with the status quo but also loud in their resistance to any form of change.